The Possibility Game

tenacious woman podcast May 25, 2022
 

Hello there lovely ladies and welcome to the tenacious woman podcast! I'm your host Misty Knight, and I am so excited to be here with you guys again today. This is going to be an amazing episode, and I think you are going to love what I'm going to share with you today. I'm going to be sharing with you guys today something that I'm going to be calling the Possibility Game.

I always hear women and even men saying “I wish I could,” “I wish I could learn to play the piano,” “I wish I could start a business,” “your hair is so pretty, I wish I could color mine purple,” and what we're doing when we say things like that is we're saying that we can't do those things. What I know to be true is that that often is not true, and so the possibility game helps us to begin taking over our control of how we make decisions and how we decide to do things in life. It really gives us our power back and helps us to make informed decisions that we love.

Before I go into what the steps of the possibility game are, I want to remind you that we have an enemy who is on the earth. His name is Satan, and he comes to kill, steal, and destroy. He is the father of lies, and actually I'm going to share verse with you.

John 8:44 “you are of your father the devil, and your will is to do your father's desires. He was a murderer from the beginning, and does not stand in the truth, because there is no truth in him. When he lies he speaks out of his own character, for he is a liar and the father of lies.”

In another translation, it says that lying is his language, and you know if our language is English we only speak English. If our language is Spanish, we only speak in Spanish. So the devil as the father of lies can only speak lies. He's very similar to the Holy Spirit in that he whispers to us. He whispers to us in our own thoughts to make us think that those things are true, but they're actually lies. I just want to remind you of that because our thoughts become our reality. Our thoughts become a result that we create in this world. So, before we begin this process I want you to be cautioned that some of those lies might pop up, and I just want to ask that we pray that the enemy be silenced as we begin this process, anytime that we start this process because we really want to look at the possibilities without our own judgments of our current reality and what we think might be possible.

OK sounds good! Awesome, so the way we do the possibility game is by asking ourselves what would it take. So if you hear yourself say “oh I wish I could start a business,” then you want to play the possibility game and say “OK in reality, what would it take for me to start a business?” Just start writing all the things down: well you might need to research and come up with an idea to decide what am I actually going to do, and how am I going to make money, you might need to do that every night after the kids go to bed because if you're working this might be after the kids go to bed, you might need to develop a business plan, maybe develop a marketing plan, develop a website, once you make it that far you might need to start saving money, putting some money aside for your initial startup costs, so if you are having to put money aside then you may have to tighten up the budget, or you may have to find some extra work to save up some money if youa don't have it in the budget, so it's going to create some sacrifices that you have to make.

We want a full complete list of everything that would have to happen in order for you to go out and create that business that you want to create. Then you might say OK what am I willing to do out of this entire list of things that I just created? Am I willing to do these things? Is this a sacrifice that I want to make? Is this something that I want to put my time into? And if the answer is no, then you can make an informed decision to CHOOSE not to start a business! Which is very different from “I can't start a business.” You've made an empowered decision to not do it. If the answer is yes, then now you know where you need to begin. You have your list of things that need to be done, and now all you need to do is look at your schedule and say OK let's get this started. What am I going to do first? And, start blocking off some time for those tasks.

Let's do another example just to kind of bring this home, and really help you to understand the topic. I'll do an example for my own life. I want to lose weight. I've been working on that for two years, and I keep beating myself up because it's not happening. I've gone through this process and figured out what was really causing a lot of the problems as far as my energy levels and gaining weight instead of losing weight when I was doing all the right things. So that's great right, all of those things are leveled out now, and I'm feeling much better.

I started on a new program for a diet plan basically, and I said I want to lose 30 pounds in three months. OK, well what does it take to lose 30 pounds in three months? We want to stop that post semi-decision guilt and judgment for not following through and not making it happen the way you want to make it happen. The Possibility Game does two things it helps with making informed decisions, and it helps with stopping the judgment and the guilt from not doing things that were way outside of what you actually wanted.

Losing 30 pounds what does that take? Well, I'm going to have to stay on the diet plan for every single meal, zero cheating, I need to work out five days a week, I need to completely cut out all drinking, I need to make sure that I get my activity in on the weekends, and no sweets, which kind of goes along with sticking to the diet plan. Well, when I ask OK do I want to do these things? The answer is no! I don't want to do these things. I don't want to go to a luncheon and have to not eat because it's not on my diet plan. I don't want to be invited to a dinner with friends, and not be able to eat what they’re cooking because it's not on my diet plan. So there are some sacrifices that I'm willing to make, but I'm not willing to make all of the sacrifices!

The next question then would be OK which ones am I willing to do? I'm willing to stick to my diet plan five to seven days a week depending on activities. I'm willing to make healthy decisions when I can't stick to the diet plan. I'm willing to work out five days a week, and I'm willing to cut my drinking back to just the weekends.

If those are the things that I'm willing to do, then what would my results look like? Well, it's going to be a little bit less than 30 pounds in three months, right! It might be a slow, gradual weight loss, so that might be two to four pounds a month instead of 10. I can live with that! Now I know that if I do these things I will get this result, and I no longer have to judge myself for not wanting to do the things that take bigger sacrifices. I also know that because I'm not making that bigger sacrifice then I'm going to have a slower weight loss, and that is OK!

 

That is exactly what this game this possibility game is all about! I want to challenge you, the next time you hear yourself saying I can't do something, try the possibility game. Then message me or email me tell me what you did it with and what your final decision was. Let me know how empowered you felt from being able to make that informed decision I love you guys, and I hope you have a wonderful day!

 

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